What makes a good friend? Apart from the obvious things - having interests in common or sharing beliefs or going to the same school or working together - you should feel comfortable with your friends. They should be supportive. They should make you feel good. You should trust them. You should respect them, and they you. They should be accepting of you and your foibles and idiosyncrasies. You should be able to depend on them to have your best interests at heart. They should be empathic and sincere and positive and fun...etc...
How boring to surround yourself with people who just agree with you on everything. My best friends are the people I can have a great discussion with and know we may continue to disagree at the end but we will still be friends.
Blimey that line 'he didn't want a partner he wanted a fan' REALLY resonated, for reasons I expect you understand. For years I believed that he enjoyed the fact I challenged him sometimes, or questioned his creative decisions, however interestedly. Actively wanted someone who didn't just nod and smile and say 'you're brilliant'. HA HA how wrong was I. He just wanted to be on a pedestal, to me and his kids. That's not a relationship, it's not even a dialogue, and without dialogue, how can there be anything else? xxx
They are there for us, we for them thats it .
Great advice Gia.
How boring to surround yourself with people who just agree with you on everything. My best friends are the people I can have a great discussion with and know we may continue to disagree at the end but we will still be friends.
Blimey that line 'he didn't want a partner he wanted a fan' REALLY resonated, for reasons I expect you understand. For years I believed that he enjoyed the fact I challenged him sometimes, or questioned his creative decisions, however interestedly. Actively wanted someone who didn't just nod and smile and say 'you're brilliant'. HA HA how wrong was I. He just wanted to be on a pedestal, to me and his kids. That's not a relationship, it's not even a dialogue, and without dialogue, how can there be anything else? xxx
Hard, but good, advice for me to swallow. Thank you.