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deletedAug 5, 2022·edited Aug 5, 2022Liked by Gia
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Huh, this is so interesting. Not going to attempt to pacify you with cliche and I have no equivalent experience to share. Just wanted to say that it’s a really thought-provoking piece, and I for one can totally understand why it would twist your melon.

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Aug 5, 2022Liked by Gia

Most woman are unseen except in their designated role .Wife Mother Nan.

We don’t exist as independent entities with

our own hopes dreams fears bright smart.

That would be too scary

for the Male of the species a bloody

woman shining brighter than them . We make it

worse for ourselves by doing an OH Ashley

if any Handsome man wanders by.

Fools that we are . Your husband is a good looking bloke hence his appeal in lots of ways

you complement him well.

Your friends see you my friends see me.

So go where you want be who you are

which is not just Mrs Brian. Is it.?

Take the positives good seats on planes .

I will make a confession now I have a Brian

Cox doll in a plastic bag in my wardrobe

many moons ago I watched one of his programs

I felt that I could nearly understand entropy

was enthralled one of my bastard kids bought

the doll convinced I had developed a crush

I had not I liked the idea of the fact that I

could attempt to understand the subject .

So laugh girl when you look in the mirror

see yourself then wrap him in a plastic bad

and stick him in the wardrobe.

Lots of love to you and yours

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Aug 5, 2022Liked by Gia

This is really fascinating. The part about the woman who saw a lifetime of investment in people and places vanish along with her husband has the quiet devastation of an old Twilight Zone episode. It is one thing to navigate such an experience, but to be able to step back and delineate it so thoroughly and with such candour, and push back against it, demonstrates a particularly robust sense of self I think. Great piece of writing.

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The photo of you by the mirror looks so sad. I know what you mean by the blurring of yourself next to B. I also find that as we age, friends circles decrease; my friends radar reduces to those I WANT to spend time having a drink with, going shopping, chilling. Just being able to laugh and people watch as the world goes by is precious with friends. We experience similar if I am at a Photography related Thing, me stepping back which also now knocks on more to those 'other' situations as David is the face they know, whereas I rarely appear as Me - and when I do, it is first confusion as to 'and you are...?' Or it is apologies... didn't recognise you... so sorry.

Personally I love the fact you have pursued your Art, it is exciting for you to create and I look forward to seeing your new pieces each time.

We know you as Gia. B came later, and we are proud to call YOU friend, and B (for us) is the plus-one.

I recognised your examples 😑 and I can only hope that she has got a remewed circle of friendship ring herself, as the years have gone on.

After all, we have ones Self to love and nurture and appreciate as time goes on. Introspective is good, but maybe in our own ways we are also Someone Elses light on the World.

Much love x

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